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Tips for parents

Small, practical ideas from everyday parenting. Try one, see how your child responds, and keep what works. Every child is different.

  1. Kids on the spectrum sometimes find it easier to talk with a doll or teddy than with another person. Try letting the teddy ask your child a question, and see what happens. Source: AAP HealthyChildren: Power of play
  2. Many kids on the spectrum are over- or under-responsive to touch. Notice whether your child prefers firm hugs and deep pressure, or light, gentle touch, and follow their lead. Source: AOTA: What is occupational therapy
  3. Try showing instead of only telling: a picture of the next step (shoes, car, school) can make a change easier to follow. Source: NCAEP: Visual supports
  4. Before a transition, try a gentle heads-up: "Two more minutes, then bath." A visual timer can make the countdown easier to see. Source: NCAEP: Visual supports
  5. If words are hard right now, try offering two choices with pictures or real objects: "Apple or banana?" Pointing counts as communicating. Source: ASHA: AAC
  6. Try narrating what your child is doing during play ("You're stacking the red block") instead of asking lots of questions. Less pressure, more words to hear. Source: ASHA: Speech and language development
  7. Try joining your child's favorite activity on their terms, even if it's lining up cars. Sharing their interest can open the door to connection. Source: AAP HealthyChildren: Power of play
  8. A short, predictable bedtime routine, the same steps in the same order each night, may help. Try a picture strip of the steps on the bedroom door. Source: NCAEP: Visual supports
  9. Notice what happens right before a meltdown: noise, hunger, a change in plans? Jot it down for a week. Patterns are easier to see on paper. Source: Child Mind Institute
  10. Try keeping a small "calm kit" in your bag: headphones, a favorite fidget, a snack. Having it ready can make outings less stressful. Source: Autism Speaks tool kits
  11. When you give an instruction, try fewer words and one step at a time: "Shoes on." Then wait a little longer than feels natural for a response. Source: ASHA: Speech and language development
  12. Try a quiet corner at home with soft light, a beanbag or blanket, where your child can go when the world feels too loud. Source: AOTA: What is occupational therapy
  13. Celebrate small wins out loud and specifically: "You put your cup in the sink!" Specific praise shows exactly what went well. Source: Understood
  14. If haircuts or dentist visits are hard, try a practice run at home: look at photos of the place, and play the visit with a toy first. Source: Autism Speaks tool kits
  15. Write your observations down before appointments: what you see, when, and how often. It helps doctors and schools understand your child. Source: Parent Center Hub: Evaluation
  16. Some kids eat better when foods don't touch. Try a divided plate and one small new food next to familiar favorites, with no pressure to eat it. Source: Autism Speaks tool kits
  17. Try singing instructions instead of saying them. A simple tune for clean-up or hand washing can make routines more fun. Source: AAP HealthyChildren: Power of play
  18. If your child repeats lines from shows, try joining in. Echoed phrases can be a way of communicating, and you can build on them. Source: ASHA: Speech and language development
  19. Movement breaks can help before sitting tasks. Try jumping, pushing a laundry basket or carrying groceries, and see if focus comes easier after. Source: AOTA: What is occupational therapy
  20. Try a "first, then" board: "First homework, then tablet." Seeing what comes next can make a hard task feel more doable. Source: NCAEP: Visual supports
  21. Let siblings in on simple ways to play together, like rolling a ball back and forth. Short, easy turns can grow into longer play. Source: AAP HealthyChildren: Power of play
  22. Your rest matters too. Try asking one person you trust for one specific hour of help this week. Small breaks count. Source: Child Mind Institute
  23. If a store is overwhelming, try going at quiet times, with a short list and a clear end: "Three things, then home." Source: Autism Speaks tool kits
  24. Try using your child's special interest to teach: count trains, read about dinosaurs, write letters to a favorite character. Source: Understood
  25. Clothing tags and seams can feel scratchy to some kids. Try tagless or seamless clothes and see if mornings get easier. Source: AOTA: What is occupational therapy
  26. Try getting down to your child's eye level and saying their name before you speak. It can help them know the words are meant for them. Source: ASHA: Speech and language development
  27. Keep a simple "all about me" page for new teachers or sitters: what calms your child, what upsets them, how they say yes and no. Source: Parent Center Hub: Evaluation
  28. If your child uses a communication board or app, try using it yourself when you talk to them. Seeing it used helps them learn it. Source: ASHA: AAC
  29. Try water play for calm time: pouring cups in the bath or sink. Many kids find the feel and sound of water soothing. Source: AAP HealthyChildren: Power of play
  30. You can ask your school district for a free evaluation in writing at any age, even before a diagnosis. Keep a copy of your letter. Source: Parent Center Hub: Evaluation

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